Entering into a relationship scenario that does not fall into the traditional box of “monogamous, long-term, heterosexual” can be scary. There are so many possibilities outside the box that one can easily become overwhelmed. You cannot know how you or your partner are going to feel as you make your way through. As you take a step into discovering what kind of relationship works for you, first-time experiences will take place, new emotions will come up and unexpected outcomes will transpire. Direct your focus to the immediate step. Once taken, you can then discuss and evaluate with your partner how it went and how you felt so that you can decide together what your next step will be.
2. Every relationship in an open relationship is unique.
Know that you and you partner are going to construct a relationship that is like no other. Based on your individual desires, wants and needs you are going to create the best and most suitable situation for the two of you. Know that what you choose to do in your relationship and how you choose to do it, is up to you. There is no manual. There is no step by step guide. You are as free as you allow yourself to be to do as you choose. Feel your way through the ever changing waves of possibilities available to you.
3. Each experience you have is just that, an experience.
Do not give too much power to each experience. There will be amazing, mind-blowing sexual experiences you once only dreamt about and there will be undesirable, unusual experiences you would have never expected. The variety is vast as you make your way through the maze of the open relationship. Enjoy all of it and come to see it as experiments in you and your relationship. Learn through the journey and discover who you are as a sexual being.