My 3 Tips When Opening Your Relationship

tumblr_msjnwciSb71qajuaro1_12801. Take it one step at a time.

Entering into a relationship scenario that does not fall into the traditional box of “monogamous, long-term, heterosexual” can be scary. There are so many possibilities outside the box that one can easily become overwhelmed. You cannot know how you or your partner are going to feel as you make your way through. As you take a step into discovering what kind of relationship works for you, first-time experiences will take place, new emotions will come up and unexpected outcomes will transpire. Direct your focus to the immediate step. Once taken, you can then discuss and evaluate with your partner how it went and how you felt so that you can decide together what your next step will be.

2. Every relationship in an open relationship is unique.

Know that you and you partner are going to construct a relationship that is like no other. Based on your individual desires, wants and needs you are going to create the best and most suitable situation for the two of you. Know that what you choose to do in your relationship and how you choose to do it, is up to you. There is no manual. There is no step by step guide. You are as free as you allow yourself to be to do as you choose.  Feel your way through the ever changing waves of possibilities available to you.

3. Each experience you have is just that, an experience.

Do not give too much power to each experience. There will be amazing, mind-blowing sexual experiences you once only dreamt about and there will be undesirable, unusual experiences you would have never expected. The variety is vast as you make your way through the maze of the open relationship. Enjoy all of it and come to see it as experiments in you and your relationship. Learn through the journey and discover who you are as a sexual being.



2 comments for “My 3 Tips When Opening Your Relationship

    April 7, 2016 at 05:03

    I don’t know where to begin, other than to say I’ve been married for 7 yrs to whom I thought I knew husband opened up to me about his sexulaity and I’m so uncomfortable about him wanting to taste the same gender.He’s had 2 encounters yrs ago..he said he’s not into men..only their kissing or eye to eye contact. .I’m trying hard to make this work..I love him so much…I’m trying to get into the mix with it all. .but my spirit says different. I’m afraid of losing him,he says he loves me withall his heart.He pushes me to send him pictures of two or more guys screwing. .I don’t mind. .but its really starting to get to me. .He wants me to enjoy this encounter with him, with another man…


    • April 7, 2016 at 14:49

      Thank you for sharing with me. There is another choice to make if you are unable to accept your husband and that is to leave him. He is bisexual and he has desires that he wants to play out. You have to get onboard with this in order to move forward. If you can not accept him as he is, then you may have to make other choices for yourself. From what you are writing I also think that you need more information about sexual exploration. If you want some help discussing your situation and how you can start to incorporate what is going on in your life, please contact me.

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